“Your loved one is headed straight to hell. If you don’t take care of yourself, you are headed straight to hell too!”
You should have seen my shocked face. We don’t talk religion in here! And we surely don’t speak in the second person. What the heck?!?!
Turned out the speaker was speaking metaphorically, not literally. Addiction to alcohol or drugs is an ever-intensifying hell, and being a family member obsessed with someone in addiction is also an ever-intensifying hell. I can’t save them, but I can save me by practicing a program, changing the focus back to me and trusting in my Higher Power.
The speaker clarified that’s what they meant, and I felt a lot better after that.
“I do not make time in my life for recovery, I make time in my recovery for life.”
If I think I don’t have time to work the steps, call my sponsor, meditate, do whatever I need to for my program, maybe I’m coming at it from the wrong angle.
I heard today a more orderly and succinct way to practice following my HP’s will for me. A speaker said that what she does when investigating a course of action is to take a single step and then ask HP to block it or bless it. And do that at each step. Generally, if it’s not HP’s will, a very clear obstacle will appear to block that course.
That is exactly how my HP has worked for me but I didn’t have the clarity to ask for block it or bless it. Now I can! Thanks, speaker!
I have to feel it to heal it.
The Steps are so that you don’t commit suicide.
The Traditions are so that you don’t commit homicide.
The Concepts are so that you don’t commit genocide.